We can show you, but we can’t understand it for you; Listen…ing; Is more important than speak…ing. But I don’t understand, though understand…ing is more imperative while doing all two! (wink)
We have a sign in our office that says “I can explain it to you, but I can’t understand it for you”! I’ve had it for years now from when I was a Trainer in a retail company. I’ve looked around to find out where it originated but I haven’t been able to find out. Simple saying but also true.
So here’s the trick you have to listen more than speak, you have to comprehend whats being said. If you can’t then it is imperative that you ask questions until you do. So now what, well it comes back to listening, absorbing and framing it in a way you can understand what is being explained to you. Think back to school and that irritating kid that always asked questions and always got A’s, went on to college and now owns half the planet. Worked for them right, maybe it bugged you in school but that kid blew the curve for everyone else for a reason. The reason is when they weren’t sure they understood they asked questions until they did and they did so their entire life. It paid off for them, why not you!
What you need to do is get yourself in the mindset of being comfortable enough to ask questions when you are unsure of yourself. Its imperative that you can listen to absorb the information and then speak if needed to get the clarification that you need. Become that kid in the front of the class that used to bug you and things will get better for you quickly. Yes it still does irritate people if your constantly doing it but over time you will learn to understand more easily without the constant questions.
So go out and irritate people today