Best friends for life; It is all about you… but make it all about them. The more they feel you care about them and the less you talk about you, the stronger and faster the relationship will be and grow. Only talk about you when they ask you, otherwise it is about them. Don’t be the “Upper” also known as the “1 Up Person”. They tell a story and you respond with “Oh yeah, me too. This one time…”. Bad tactics start with bad habits.
Listening is a big part of TAC. It is always about them so it can eventually get back to you. Your best friend is your best friend because you are there for THEM, and you listen to THEM, and you protect THEM. People who talk about themselves are look at as selfish or annoying. Though, to befriend a person you have to ignore that factor. If you want them to except you than listen to all their self exploitation without judging. It will turn around and become an open floor for you as time progresses.
The idea is to become best friends for life. It takes time and some effort of calm on your part. Don’t be the person always trying to 1 up the story. If someone says something about a subject don’t respond with your story that adds to their story, or takes the attention off of them and onto you. In fact, how about you stop thinking about what you are going to say while they are talking and just listen to what they are saying. It is not about YOU… well, for now at least. You want this person to like you, so give them respect enough to know you care.
Don’t feel like you are on deck for the next at bat and you’re just waiting for your turn to hit the ball. It is not always about you hitting the ball. It is about winning the game. This game can only be won by getting runs. Runs are brought in by having people on base. You don’t want to be that one hitter who always gets home-runs while no one is on base do you? It is about being that person on base who gets brought in by the next hitter. Or staying in the game and getting to third to help fill up the bases for that big grand-slam. Bad tactics start with bad habits, break the habits by giving a little to others when it comes to your ear…