*This is not so much TAC: The Art of Conversation, but understanding Verbal Communication…*
Speaking to people you don’t know is difficult for most people. They become nervous and worried that they won’t make a good impression. Worry less about the impression you might not make and realize that the person you are speaking to is likely just as nervous as you are talking to someone new.
Preparing for this can be somewhat done, a little preparation can make the act of starting a conversation easier on your nerves. Just like you, they are meeting someone for the very first time. Neither of you know anything about each other. No idea about hobbies or interests, no knowledge of pet peeves or odd quirks. You could have mutual friends or maybe were introduced through a mutual friend. Maybe you go to the same gym or the same coffee shop. Already you have so many things you two can talk about it’s a bit less scary now isn’t it. So now you’re thinking that’s way to much information. N where do I start?
Here is where you start. Get some easy to remember ice breaker type questions. An ice breaker is something to help you jump-start a conversation. Once the conversation starts to move along just remember to ask questions about what the other person has said to you. This helps you to create a bond and sends the relationship with this person down the path to friendship. Here are some general questions to ask in case you are really swinging in the breeze so far as what to do.
Is your week going well?
Where do you work?
What do you do there?
Have you been working there along time?
Do you like it?
What type of music do you like?
What’s your favorite artist or band?
What are your hobbies?
Do you play any sports?
Where are you from?
To many questions? Well then just pick a few and remember to listen to the person you are speaking with, their answers this will allow you to ask follow-up questions and the conversation will just flow from there naturally without having to resort to more mundane questions. So get out there and start talking to people.