Today’s Tip – Yessing a person to death can kill your chances of making an impression worth holding on to. Of course, being “yessed” to death may be a way you can identify their lack of interest in you. Use it as a barometer to figure out which direction you should take that encounter. Listen and respond!
We do it to people all the time. Think back to when you lived at home and your Mom or Dad asked you to do something like, “Go take out the garbage.” You would say, “Yes, I will in a minute.” Thirty minutes later they would say something along the lines of, “Didn’t I ask you to take out the garbage?” You would still respond “Yes.” Indicating that you did. This would usually be followed up by “Well go do it!” At which point you might have done it or this could have gone on for a while, rinse and repeat until infinity and beyond. See the point, you weren’t listening and didn’t care or didn’t want to do it so you just tossed the word yes at them, so they would think you were going to… You weren’t though and that happens to you all the time as an entertainer, and guess what you are the one being yessed now.
On the opposite side of the coin, you may be doing this to others killing your chances of making a good impression. The people you interact with will not think well of you and may think your not worth their time if this goes on for too long. The solution is simple though, just be honest and straightforward. If you can do something and want to then tell them that. If you can’t do something, then let them know that as well. Don’t try placating people for the sake of being agreeable, they will respect your honesty more.
Simple, just be honest. In the moment, they may be unhappy with you, but in the long term, they will respect you more.